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The
Artist Leadership Network for Women (AKA "ALN" ) is comprised
of active groups of creative women in different areas of the United
States of America which are meet on a regular basis - generally
every two weeks, or twice a month.
Our
primary mode of supporting each other is a developed method of giving
one another positive attention which we call active listening.
Active
listening consists of paying close attention to what the person
whose turn it is to speak is saying, without interrupting her with
our own ideas, experiences, advice, approval and/or disapproval,
etc. This mean not analyzing what she is saying, nor judging, criticizing
or "rescuing" her (even silently). No cross-talk, not even an apparently
supportive comment such as "I know what you mean," is
allowed when it is another woman's turn to speak.
This
process was developed because we believe that when we are truly
listened to, when we are able to think out loud without the fear
of being interrupted or judged, we eventually get to the place where
each of us can do her own best thinking - and then act on it! Not
believing in our own thinking is one of the biggest ways we've been
hurt and oppressed as women and as artists; it often creates a lack
of confidence in ourselves which may keep us from actively leading
in many areas of our lives, including that deep part which is the
wellspring of our creativity. Being truly listened to and heard
by other women artists is an enormous contradiction to this oppression,
and a great first step on the way to becoming a leader in our own
lives and our art. (Which is why we are called The Artist Leadership
Network.)
Last
but not least, confidentiality is of paramount importance in our
groups. Anything said during a person's time in our sessions (or
during individual time-trades outside of meetings) is always completely
confidential. This helps us all to have the courage to express our
biggest dreams and most creative visions. If a member of the group
wishes to refer to or talk about something another person has said
during "her time" she must ask permission first, and then accept
it if the other woman declines to talk about it. This is because
each of us really needs to work out her own answers, and sometimes
hearing someone else's ideas or suggestions can get in the way of
this process.
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